Do you remember just how awful you had felt when someone you truly love dumped you?
I am sure you don’t want to recall that feeling, because nobody in their right mind would want to relive that memory, but no matter how much you try to avoid thinking or talking about it, someone will bring it up from time to time.
And whenever that would happen, we’d become emotional thinking about how that person, who once meant the world to us, crushed all our hopes and broke our heart into pieces.
I understand that getting over a heartbreak can be incredibly painful, but just keep this in mind, if that person was really the one for you, if he was truly your soul mate, then he wouldn’t have broken your heart in the first place.
Moreover, a failed relationship is not your life, rather it’s only a small part of it and, as such, shouldn’t be given any more importance. So, if something didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean that you failed at love or that you’ve lost out on your soul-mate, it just means that you are one step closer to finding ‘the one’, someone whose imperfections are perfect for you and whose love will mend all of the broken pieces of your heart.
During this moment of despair, we tend to feel lonely and rejected, with all kind of negative thoughts clouding our thought process. Well, one way to snap out of this is by thinking about how it’s actually not our, but their loss that they left us.
After all, it was them who gave up on the relationship. While you were strong enough to even take a bullet for them, they couldn’t care less about your feelings. Therefore, they should be the ones crying and not you.
Right now, it feels like this period of pain will never end, but it is just a momentary phase in your life. And trust me, you will be laughing about it all in the future.
Don’t believe me? Well, just look back right now and think about the first person you ever dated. Would you want to marry that person? I am sure not! Similarly, forget about the person who has outgrown you and show them that you are better off without them.
Now is the time to channelize your situation into doing things you couldn’t do while you were with them.
Like maybe get your hair coloured or spend time with your friends or get drunk at a bar all alone? After all, you have now got the freedom to rediscover yourself. You also need to stop blaming and asking yourself questions like “What did I do wrong?”, “Could I have been better?”, “Will I ever find love again?” because the ONLY thing you did wrong was dating that person in the first place!
Lastly, I would want to say that you are more than this relationship, you have your own individuality. So, feel blessed for getting out of a one-sided relationship and start living your life like there’s no tomorrow by treating the person who broke your heart like he doesn’t exist.