A bad relationship can be a scary scenario and the first step of getting out of a bad relationship is to realise that you are in one. A bad relationship is the kind that makes you miserable more than it makes you happy.
If you’re in a bad relationship and desperately seeking to get out but you keep making excuses such as ‘I love him’ or ‘he will change’, you should definitely give this article a read.
1. Don’t stay in the relationship just because you’re afraid of being alone.
This is ridiculously stupid and you need learn to be independent and strong. If you rely on someone else for everything, they are bound to take advantage of you and take you for granted. You can only find the right person for you if you let go of the wrong one first.
2. Don’t stay in the relationship because you’ve gotten comfortable with it.
You might have been in a relationship for far too long and now you don’t know how to be single. You’re comfortable in your routine and you’re far too afraid of disrupting the dynamics and changing everything. This is definitely not a good reason to continue to stay with someone.
3. Don’t stay in the relationship because you think your partner will change and it will be different this time around.
You should realise that some people never change and no matter how they try to convince you otherwise, you’ve already seen their behaviour first hand. Don’t wait for the person you’re with to turn in to the person you want them to be.
4. Don’t just settle for someone because you’re afraid you’ll never meet anyone or because you’re afraid that this is what you deserve.
You only get what you deserve and if you think this is what you deserve, this is what you’ll get. Know that you deserve the best and you deserve someone who truly cares about you and wants to be with you.
5. Don’t make excuses for your partner when they flake on you.
Your friends and family have often told you to get rid of your partner but you keep making excuses for them like ‘Oh, they’re just running late’ or that ‘they’ve had a busy day and are just too tired’. You have to stop doing that and think what is best for you!
6. Do not tolerate any form of abuse.
Abuse doesn’t have to mean physical abuse, it can even be emotional or verbal abuse. If your partner degrades you every opportunity they get and says mean things, it’s likely they will continue to do so in the future. Such people do not change easily.
7. Learn to love yourself before you can be with someone else.
If you cannot accept yourself with all your flaws and everything, how do you expect someone else to? Learn to love yourself and admire the person you’ve become. Portray an air of confidence and see how attract the right kind of people to your life. Only when you let go of all the insecurities you’re harbouring and trying gain approval from others will you become a complete person.