It’s an amazing feeling to be in a loving relationship, and when you feel deeply loved by someone in that relationship, it makes you want to do things that will make your partner happy because, at the end of the day, there’s nothing you want to see more than their happiness. But what if they don’t do any such things to make you happy? What if it’s only you who’s taking all those efforts to make them happy, all the while they are showing zero interest in making you a priority? What if you start feeling lonely even after being in a relationship? Well, all that is clearly a sign of being in a one-sided relationship and needless to say, you need to get out of it as soon as possible. Why you ask? Well, allow me to give you seven reasons why being in a one-sided relationship is just not worth it:
1. It’s a big waste of your time.
You’re wasting your time loving and valuing a person who needs to be reminded that you exist and to whom your absence makes no difference whatsoever. All the time that you invest in making them happy could instead be put to more productive use that will benefit you. After all, why waste it on a person who is just not concerned about you?
2. All of your efforts will go unnoticed and unappreciated.
All these Bollywood films must have made you believe that putting in efforts and going out of your way for your partner will make them fall more in love with you, right? Well, let me burst that bubble for you as all of that is bullshit. If a person is supposed to be in love with you, he/she will be in love with you, irrespective of what all you do for them, just like how you’re still in love with them in spite of them not putting in any efforts for you.
3. It will reduce your self-esteem.
Being with someone who doesn’t even acknowledge your presence will only reduce your self-esteem and confidence. You will start judging yourself and eventually, will start hating yourself for your flaws. You don’t deserve that because you need to believe that it’s actually your flaws and imperfections that make you absolutely perfect.
4. They will eventually start taking you for granted.
Even if there’s a slight chance that they are concerned about you but don’t love you as much as you love them, your constant efforts to win their hearts will just boost their ego, thereby enabling them to start taking you for granted. They will always assume that you’ll be there for them no matter how they treat you, and so they’ll find it easier to take you for granted.
5. You’ll have to give up on your self-respect and pride.
At one point of time, you will realise that you have fu*king given up on your self-respect and pride just to save your relationship, which by the way had died out a long while ago. As you are guaranteed to regret holding on to it, it’s just better to let it go.
6. You will face the constant feeling of rejection from your own partner.
Being ignored and rejected by someone you hardly know will only sting a little bit, but when it’s your own partner who’s trying to avoid you, it’ll end up hurting you a lot more. This will surely break you and make you feel like you’re just not good enough for them.
7. You’ll fail to see the better things and people around you.
When you’re busy trying to make someone who is not even into you happy, you’re actually giving up on things that could make you happy instead. You need to realise that there are people who genuinely want you to smile and laugh because your happiness probably makes them happy. So find that positive energy around you, rather than wasting your time on some idiot.