11 Ways To Control Your Anger & Feel More Relaxed
Aside from heartbreak, being angry is probably one of the worst feelings in the world. It can be hard to focus and think rationally. If you’ve tried to find ways to control your anger in the past, but it still seems to be an issue in certain situations, then you might have a problem. But that doesn’t mean a solution isn’t out there. Anger is an emotion, just like happiness and sadness, that we have to manage on a daily basis. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being angry, you want to be able to deal with it in a healthy way
“We all get angry, but we have to know when, where, and how it is appropriate to express that anger. If we do not learn these skills, we can cause serious issues for our relationships, work life, friendships, and family life. Having too consistently high a level of anger can cause hypertension, heart attacks, strokes, and high blood pressure to name a few. So as you can see, it is truly essential that we learn healthier ways of expressing and managing our anger,” says Nicole Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC, in an email to Bustle.
Knowing when to turn off your anger can be troublesome if you have a short fuse or you don’t know how to deal with tough situations. While it’s always a good idea to talk to a therapist about managing your anger, there are at-home tricks you can do in the meantime to help. And even though it may seem impossible, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Here are 11 ways for you to control your anger.
1. Identify Your Triggers
Being self-aware of what makes you angry is important. It allows you to prevent the situation from getting worse, so you can take a step back and calm down. “They need to identify their triggers and avoid them. You can not be angry and calm at the same time, so if you have strong relaxation techniques to pull from, you will be a true master of your anger,” says Martinez.